My Life with Fibro

Fibromyalgia and Endless Appointments and Judgmental Folks

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Sometimes I feel insecure about the quantity of medical appointments I have had this year.  But today I realized something.

If I don’t jump all over minor issues, as they arise, I’ll be mugged by a flare up… eventually.  So, to those of you who don’t understand the nature of chronic pain conditions, and think I’m a wuss who spends too much time with a doctor… keep it to yourself.  Please.

Your judgments don’t enrich the world.  In fact, I don’t think they do anything but reassure you that your over-scheduled, passive-aggressive life will in fact make you better than me (although the fact that you spend your time judging me shows quite candidly that you don’t actually believe that).

And, as for me, I will work on caring less what the judgmental crowd thinks.  I know I’m a “grown-up” now, and should be over caring… but I’m not.

So there it is, short and not-so-sweet… another life lesson from the shameless schoolmaster that is chronic pain.

2 responses to “Fibromyalgia and Endless Appointments and Judgmental Folks”

  1. Nicole Gilbert

    I know you wrote this months ago, but I’m just reading it now. It’s so right on. It’s the whole, “But you look fine” thing. Yeah? Well a person 30 seconds away from a fatal aneurysm looks fine too, doesn’t she?

    If you’re not bleeding from an artery, people sometimes can’t understand. Fibro is like migraines – if you don’t have it, you won’t understand.

    I have tons of dr. appointments, too. With tons of different doctors. I feel like I’m supporting the entire AMA! It’s stupid not to go to the dr. when you need to and we need to!

    You have a great attitude!

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  2. Wendy Burnett

    Kate –

    You tell ’em. One thing we DON’T need is more judgmental folks telling us what wusses we are, we judge ourselves harshly enough as it is.

    Fibro will eat us alive if we let it, and anyone who doesn’t have it can only have the vaguest idea of what it’s like, so they have absolutely no right to judge how we choose to deal with it.

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